This is a post from our Executive Pastor’s blog. It’s a great leadership lesson and one that isn’t very easily learned. Many times you think you know what’s best for a person and the truth is, you don’t.
Last year, I was leading a small group but needed to transition out of that role due to the fact that I had too much on my plate. I enjoyed leading the group; however, the group was suffering because I wasn’t able to pour the necessary energy into it. In searching for a capable leader, my mind kept coming back to a particular person. There was one problem, I knew that individual was working a full-time job and going to school. I, in essence, was ready to say ‘no’ for him. I thought he might be too busy.
After about a week of wrestling with and praying through this issue, God would not allow me to release this thought. So, I approached the person and offered the opportunity to them. This leader was more than excited about the opportunity. It didn’t take him long at all to say ‘yes’. Since that time, he and his wife have taken over the group and done a phenomenal job of leading. They have taken the group to a place that I couldn’t have taken it.
Moral of the story: Don’t say ‘no’ for people. No matter what excuse you make for them, always extend the opportunity to them and allow them to make the decision. You might just find that it is the opportunity they have been waiting for!